Do you remember when you turned one and your parents had a birthday party for you? Well, I can barely remember mine, however I do recall my daughter’s first birthday.
We had balloons and gave her piece of birthday cake and suddenly the cake was everywhere!
It was all over her face, the high chair, the floor and our dog, Buckeye even had cake in her hair. It was an amazing day and the memory is etched in my mind.
A Birthday is special
Birthdays are special. Its marks the beginning and is something which is celebrated. When the word birthday is mentioned, what thought or expression comes to mind?
- Loved ones
I’m sure there could be others which come into your mind.
Tide Turners Newsletter Turns One
Just a few weeks ago, the Tide Turners Newsletter reached a milestone! On July 12th, 2016 I wrote my first article and every week since then, there has been inspiration, guidance and insights shared in each article.
Many of you have been with me since I first mentioned, I would be writing a weekly newsletter and I thank you! Several of you have sent comments regarding the articles which you found helpful and I thank you for taking the time to send a comment.
Email fills our inboxes everyday and my goal is not to fill your inbox with worthless material, however valuable content that if applied, can impact your life journey.
Birthday = GIFT
When you celebrate a birthday, there is usually a gift, so I have a gift for you! I’d love to provide you a compliment coaching session. A time to connect for: clarity, direction, advice on how to remove a roadblock, achievement habits, goals, or whatever you need in your journey of life. To schedule the birthday gift visit the Tide Turners Gift .
Tide Turners Newsletter Wish
Here are my wishes for the newsletter this coming year.
- Please share the article via social media so others can view or forward to a friend or co-worker.
- Please comment below or email me what topics or subjects you desire insights or focus on. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
- Send feedback either positive or negative regarding the articles. You can do that in the comments or you can send an email.
I love what William Barclay says about birthdays, “There are two great days in a person’s life – the day we are born and the day we discover why.”
My final wish for you, is that you discover why. If I can help or serve you in anyway, please let me know.
It is my honor and I truly enjoy writing this weekly newsletter and serving you. Thanks for taking the time to open and read this email!
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Progress isn’t measured by moments, it’s measured in your daily disciplines. ~ Cardiff D. Hall
You peer outside your window and its beautiful, the temperature is in the upper 70’s, its partly cloudy and you are getting summer fever, so is it possible to stay productive during the summer?
Thoughts of your favorite beach chair come into vision and suddenly you find yourself at the beach, staring at the ocean but wait, you are staring at your computer. Questions enter your mind like flights taking off at a busy airport. “Why am I here?”, “Should I leave now?” “Why am I not getting anything done?”
So, seriously is it even possible to be productive during the summer?
To Stay Productive In The Summer Requires A Plan
To avoid the drifts during the week and avoiding the being unproductive you need a plan to ensure you stay productive during the summer. “All you need is the plan, the roadmap, and the courage to press onto your destination.” – Earl Nightingale
A plan which will optimize your time during the summer, due to added activities, holidays and items which draw your attention away from the job. The plan should be a thought out process which you can implement daily and thus at the end of each day, allow yourself to review your activities.
Personally, I just completed utilizing a great resource called The Mastery Journal, which allows you to master productivity, discipline and focus in 100 days! I first learned about this journal by the creator John Lee Dumas from his EOFire podcast.
Ok, I know what you are thinking. “I can really master productivity, discipline and focus in 100 days?” I thought the same thing also. After I completed 20 days in the journal, I could see my productivity and discipline scores increasing and thus my focused increased and I stayed productive! The same can occur for you.
Three Core Elements To Stay Productive During The Summer
- Focus – the ability to not get distracted and remain at the task at hand. Have you ever been working on a project and your phone buzzes and then suddenly reach over to see what alert you just received? Guilty! I have don’t that also, until I begin to remove all distractions in each focus session.
A focus session is a period of time which you allocate toward a specific task. Inside the Mastery Journal there are four sessions that you will input the amount of time you are allocating to each session. After entering the focus time, you then indicate your refresh time. Your refresh time is the amount of time to give your mind a rest before entering the next session. I found by allocating the times plus eliminating the distractions, allowed me to stay on task.
- Productivity – this is all about getting things DONE! Are you one to cross things off a list after you complete the task? I love crossing things off or making a nice checkmark beside the task.
If you travel for work, I found by planning in advance, the focus topics for each session provided clarity. It allowed me to plan the necessary time during traveling and business meetings.
“Productivity is never an accident. It is always a result of a commitment to excellance, intelligent planning, and a focused effort.” Paul J. Meyer
- Discipline– is having the capacity to stick to something, which you deemed important to you, even on the days you don’t feel like doing it. Those who harness discipline, are able to accomplish more than than those who ebb and flow in their level of commitment.
In the Mastery Journal you have the opportunity to rate your discipline on a scale of one to ten each day during the 100 days. I know when I first started, my discipline score was ok on day one, however I was able to increase my score +2.25 points by day 100.
The 100 Day Journey
Along the 100 day journey , I learned how to manage interrupts better and to turn off all notifications for a period of time. Implementing these tactics can increase all threes of these principles.
Is it possible to be productive during the summer! YES! If you Utilize the Mastery Journal you will increase your focus, productivity and discipline!
PS: If have a goal you want to achieve in 100 days, check out the Freedom Journal.
The sounds of the ocean can fill the mind with calmness and peace; be still to hear it. ~ Cardiff D. Hall
Last week, we celebrated Independence Day in the United States and I’d thought it would be good to relook at our freedom and the freedom of choice. We are fortunate to live in a country where we are allowed to do what we want. Our laws give us the unalienable rights to “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”
As a result of these rights, we have an unlimited amount of choices to make on any given day:
What will I wear today?
Will I go to the gym after work?
Where should I go on vacation?
Many of us make will dozens of decisions today without giving them a second thought. While quite a few of these choices may appear insignificant at the time, we must be very mindful of how some of them could impact our lives years later down the road.
In other words, it’s time we take a closer look at some of the choices we make.
The Big Picture
Many of our decisions are made quickly and without much thought. In some instances that’s ok, but in others, it could be a mistake. Did you know the choices we make can indicate three important things about us?
- Who we are. The choices we make help people gauge who we are and what we are about. For example, a person who eats a healthy diet and works out daily may be viewed differently than a person whose diet consists of fast food and never exercises. Not to mention that unhealthy lifestyle could lead to sickness (and high medical bills) in the future.
- Where we go in life. The choices we make today can have a tremendous impact on our lives tomorrow: We do the bare minimum at our job, coming in late, and not being a team player. Next thing you know, the company is moving in a different direction and you find yourself out of a job.
- Who we become. It’s easy to see how our actions affect us after the fact, but they may not be as evident at that particular moment in time: Trying to keep up with the Jones’ could impact you financially and increase your debt. Thanks to your “friends,” you could find yourself in serious financial trouble that could’ve been easily avoided.
The importance of making wise choices can be seen in these great historical quotes:
- “In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing. The worst thing you can do is nothing.” Theodore Roosevelt
- People pay for what they do, and still more for what they have allowed themselves to become. And they pay for it very simply; by the lives they lead.” James Baldwin
- “We stand at the crossroads, each minute, each hour, each day, making choices. We choose the thoughts we allow ourselves to think, the passions we allow ourselves to feel, and the actions we allow ourselves to perform. Each choice is made in the context of whatever value system we have selected to govern our lives. In selecting that value system, we are, in a very real way, making the most important choice we will ever make.” Benjamin Franklin
The Red Pill, or the Blue Pill?
In the classic movie The Matrix, Neo (played by Keanu Reeves) was given the option by Morpheus (Lawrence Fishburne) to take the red pill or the blue pill. This one choice would alter the course of his life forever.
Neo only had to make one choice to shape his destiny, but we aren’t so lucky: We will have many red pill/blue pill moments in our lives. As we make one decision, another challenge will magically appear to take its’ place.
Unlike Neo, the results of our choices may not be as instantaneous or obvious. In some cases, it could be months or even years before they manifest themselves.
Not only that, instead of Lawrence Fishburne playing Morpheus, he will be played by our best friend, spouse, boss, or other associates. Each of them will ask us to make decisions on various issues and expect definitive answers. It’s critical we keep this in mind and be mindful of the potential impact of these responses on our lives.
Making Better Choices
Making decisions can be easy, but making the “right” decision can be a challenge. Here are tips on how to make better choices:
Trust your gut. Sometimes, things just don’t feel right. We can put a finger on it, but something just seems off. This could be our instincts warning us to stay away or tread lightly. If it makes you uneasy, take a step back and look closer before making a decision.
Check your moral compass. Will the decision go against what you stand for? Many times, we can be persuaded to do things we may not want to do, which could come back to haunt us. We all know the difference between right and wrong:
- Is this illegal?
- Will people be hurt if I do this?
- How will this impact my family?
Don’t be afraid to stay true to your convictions. By saying “no” today you could be saving yourself from heartache and grief tomorrow.
Choices Shape Your Future
Use common sense. Many times, we get caught up in the moment and make decisions that are often swayed by emotion. You may be happy the Golden State Warriors won the NBA Championship, but that does not mean its ok to turn over a few cars and light them on fire as you celebrate.
Think about the long term ramifications. Ask yourself: Will this action have a positive or negative impact on my future? This one simple question could keep a person on the right path, possibly saving them from regret and hardships.
Independence Day is a holiday that celebrates freedom and the right to make choices. As we enjoy this special day, let’s take a moment to remember how important the choices we make can be.
Remember: what we do today can shape the direction of our lives tomorrow!
PS: Last week I had the opportunity to featured on two different podcast. So I am giving you a choice: Maximize Your Strenghts and JumbleThink – both offer something different and I believe you would enjoy the insights shared!
Choices are the pathway which will lead you forward or push you back. ~ Cardiff D. Hall
One can see as far as one wants to, it’s up to you to determine your site. ~ Cardiff D. Hall
Are you a “conscious incompetent?” This is the individual who knows they don’t know. As a result, they’re always seeking knowledge and learning new things. They understand that’s how they grow and evolve as a person.
There’s another person that we should be aware of, and that is the “unconscious incompetent.” They simply don’t know that they don’t know. This type of individual believes they have all the answers, and you can’t tell them anything.
Now I must admit: When I was a teenager, I thought I knew it all too. Nobody could tell me anything, well except Arnold: my best friend’s dad. If someone told me something that went against what I believed, I blew them off. It was clear to me they didn’t know what they were talking about!
Even though I was still living at home and had zero responsibilities, I had everything figured out. Despite my lack of real world experiences, my belief in how the world should work was all that mattered.
It wasn’t until later in life that I realized how wrong I was. I wasn’t just wrong, I was lost.
Am I the only one who felt this way?
As I reflect on past experiences, there’s one phrase that I keep repeating to myself:
I wish I would’ve listened.
There have been plenty of times where I shrugged off advice because I thought my way was the best (and only) way. Boy was I wrong.
I was the king of unconscious incompetents back in the day, but now, I’m keenly aware that there is A LOT I do not know, and I can obtain valuable information by simply listening to others. While I’m not surprised that kids and young adults are conscious incompetents, I’m shocked at the number of adults who still think this way.
Listen and Learn
No one is as deaf as the man who will not listen. Proverb
This is where effective listening comes into play. If we want to accomplish anything in life, we must understand there’s a lot we don’t know. Some people may think admitting this is a sign of weakness, but that’s not the case. It’s actually a sign of strength and improves their ability to grow.
- Would you go to a doctor who prescribed medicine without letting you describe your symptoms?
- Would you hire an attorney who refused to hear your side of the story because they’ve “seen a million cases like yours” before?
Chances are both of these individuals will soon be out of business if they keep that attitude. How many of us have similar attitudes but don’t realize it?
Refusing to listen can affect us in many aspects of our lives, both on the job and in our personal relationships:
Business. Lack of listening in business can affect employee relationships and the company’s bottom line:
- Loss of trust and loyalty. It is difficult for employees to trust someone who doesn’t listen. This can prompt them to seek employment elsewhere.
- Decrease in shared ideas. Few employees will share ideas if they perceive their boss as someone who knows everything and refuses to listen to subordinates. This can cause the business to stagnate.
Personal. Not listening to your significant other can put the relationship in jeopardy:
- Increased frustration. Having a partner who knows everything and won’t accept your input can cause anger, resentment and frustration.
- Partner becomes distant. Partners who are unable to share their thoughts may become distant, which can increase tension in the relationship.
- Loss of desire. Being involved with someone who thinks they know everything could be a turnoff, putting a strain on the relationship.
Benefits of Knowing You Don’t Know
Once a person realizes they don’t know everything, they may want to learn more. As a result, they become receptive to listening to others. This can help them in a variety of ways:
They gain respect. Listening to others can give them the respect and admiration they never had before.
Discover new things. Listening to others can open a new way of thinking, increasing their ability to learn.
Improved relationships. By letting others speak their minds, a residual effect is improved interpersonal relationships both at home and at work.
- Accept the fact that you don’t know everything. This is one of the first step to learning new things and becoming an effective listener.
- Try to learn something from everyone you encounter. Everyone is an expert at something. Give them the opportunity to show you. Ask questions.
- Step out of your comfort zone. By doing something new, you will be forced to obtain information on how to complete the task. This is an excellent way to talk to others and allow them to educate you on something new.
- Discover the conscious competence learning model. The conscious incompetent is just one part of this fascinating theory. Want to learn more? Read about it here: conscious competence learning model.
Sometimes, we don’t listen because we think we know everything. Are you an unconscious incompetent? By taking a step back and observing the world around us, we can truly begin to listen and learn more than we ever imagined.
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