Do you remember the chorus of the 1971 Carly Simon song, “Anticipation”? Can you hear it now in your head? Do you remember what company used this song in their TV commercial? The answer is at the bottom of the blog. This memory of the commercial takes me back to my family room, watching TV with my brothers.
Anticipation, the wait! This past Christmas my seven year old daughter had so much anticipation for her Elf Tootie to arrive every day and then Santa to arrive. Her anticipation was well, just say, it was the way it should be for a child.
Something happens when we get to be an adult. We cannot stand waiting. It seems with the improvement of technology, we as humans do not like to wait, so companies have sped everything up, so you do not have to wait.
You can order your favorite coffee drink via a phone and pick it up. Want your groceries delivered in two hours or less? There is a store chain who will do that. Order via Amazon, pick up in a store the same day. The world is going to instant, forget the waiting. We don’t like to wait.
So, with the world going to an instant gratification, how do we anticipate the right way?
Today, my book releases entitled Tide Turners. I have been anticipating this day for three years and today it has arrived. I feel like the little child looking up the chimney for Santa. Is it coming? Will there grand music playing? Will there be angels playing trumpets to announce the arrival of the book in Barnes & Noble? Will there be long lines of people outside the local Minneapolis libraries, lined up for hours to buy the latest Tide Tuners book? Sounds triumphal doesn’t it? Ok, all this is not going to happen.
I believe there is a right way and wrong way to anticipate. I’d like to focus on how to anticipate the right way.
- Avoid watching devices which pull your attention away from the project or task you are doing. Let’s say you interviewed for a job which would be an advancement for you. They informed you they would contact you on a certain day. You keep watching your phone, nothing. You dial a friend’s number to see if your phone is actually active. You check to see if your phone is on silent or airplane mode. Your focus is all about the phone which draws your attention to worry and fear. This could also be your inbox.
- Focus on how best to serve. Continuing with the new job, avoid focusing on the raise in compensation. Focus on how best I can serve the company. If you are waiting for a client to notify you of a partnership, focus on the value you will bring and how best you will serve your client.
- Believe in yourself. Don’t take this to mean, you need to have a big ego. There is a big difference between confidence in yourself and ego. Ego projects “It’s all about me” or is purely focused on something outwardly. Confidence is assurance in your abilities. Very different places to be.
- Be prepared. Imagine if you are the head coach of an NFL playoff team and you failed to create the game plan, meet with your staff and just showed up for the game. If you cared about your team winning and you did this, your stress level would be high. Anticipation means you are prepared, you expect certain situations, and you practiced them and know your team is confident about what is coming.
- Relax. I utilize mediation to relax me or if you are not into mediation, I suggest find something which will power you mentally. Allow your mind and body to relax. Allow your mind to avoid spending time focusing on that thing you are expecting but rather be in a calm mental state. When you are in a calm place mentally, your stress level is lower.
Putting all of these things into motion will allow you to anticipate the correct way. Are you saying, if I do all of these things, I will get the JOB? No, I am not saying that. You cannot predict the outcome, however your approach and deliverables up to the point of waiting, is your responsibility.
Today, I am focusing on how best I can serve you reading this and those who will read Tide Turners. I increased my mediation time and prepared myself for the great reviews and the less than great reviews. I reviewed the future letter of a reader of Tide Turners and I put my trust and faith in a higher power.
If you have not secured a copy of Tide Turners yet, you can order a copy on amazon at Book or Kindle.
Anticipate the right way, I am confident you will encounter less stress and increase your confidence.
Ps. The Company who utilized ‘Anticipation’ was: Heinz. Click here to see the Heinz Ketchup TV ad