Using failure to succeed seems counter intuitive!
If you fail, logic would say your ability to succeed is not good, right?
Yes, you would think that, given failing is considered not good, and something looked down upon. Remember back to college or even grade school? Hearing the letter “F” caused pain, well if you cared about school it did.
Just the word failure right now is probably bringing your mind to a place in time. The word failure can actually lead you to success, however it does require a mindset change that failure is actually GOOD!
“Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater success. I’ve met people who don’t want to try for fear of failing.” – J.K. Rowling
Here are four ways on how to use failure to succeed.
1. There is something to LEARN
Many times after a failure, the individual will say, “it wasn’t for me anyway” or “it wouldn’t work”, or “it just wasn’t the right time for me.” Have you used any of these?
When you fail, there is learning to be gained, however you must be willing to look for the learning and make the necessary adjustments to move forward.
Don’t be afraid to slow down and really take time to investigate what occurred during the failure and how you could alter things for the next attempt.
2. Offers the ability to gain assistance from a coach/mentor
Failing can open the doors to having someone with you along the journey, which could be coach, mentor or a group to help guide you through the journey.
A coach provides guidance, clarity, stability and many other qualities, which can show you how to use failure to succeed.
Have you ever looked inside your refrigerator and couldn’t locate an item? You ask your spouse to help and suddenly it appears. There were two set of eyes looking for it and the same can occur when you bring along a coach.
3. Builds Your Endurance
Endurance is the building of your mindset and mental strength to continue to move forward, regardless of the difficulties.
Have you worked out and felt sore the next day? Then you worked the same muscles the next time and you were not that sore. Then again the following week, you did the same routine and the soreness isn’t there. You built up your endurance and learnt how to use failure to succeed.
The same occurs when you fail and fail often.
“It’s not how far you fall, but how high you bounce that counts.” – Zig Ziglar
Richard Fenton and Andrea Waltz wrote a book entitled Go For No! The subtitle is ‘Yes is the destination, no is how you get there’ and going for No, will build your endurance.
4. Increases your desire
Failing many times, would get tiring and probably exhausting however, with the right mindset, endurance and learning , the number of times can be motivation.
One such individual, Arianna Huffington took her number of failures and found success. Her second book was rejected by 36 publishers. There are many failure to success stories which showcase their desire to achieve.
If you fail many times, your “Why” behind what is driving you, must be strong.
Woud you give up, if you failed 36 times in that goal or dream you are striving for?
Now you are better equipped to understand how to use failure to succeed.
The question is, will you ALLOW failure to help you or not?
You are the only one who can allow failure to stop you or give you the power to continue.
Failure can help you succeed and it is fundamental to the process of achievement.
Don’t see failure as something to stop you, but rather the fuel to drive you to the next failure exit. Stop, evaluate your progress and begin again.
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